A CREDO FOR RELATIONSHIPS
We are in a relationship that is important to me, yet we are also two separate persons with our own individual values and needs.
So that we will better know and understand what each of us values and needs, let us always be open and honest with our communication.
Whenever I am prevented from meeting my needs by some action of yours, I will tell you honestly and without blame, how I am affected, thus giving you the chance to modify your behavior out of respect for my needs. And I want you to be as open with me when my behavior is unacceptable to you.
And when we experience conflicts in our relationship, let us agree to resolve each conflict without using power to win at the expense of the other losing. We will always search for a solution that meets both our needs; neither lose, both will win.
Whenever you are experiencing a problem in your life, I will try to listen with acceptance and understanding in order to help you find your own solutions rather than imposing mine. And I want you to be a listener for me when I need to find solutions to my problems.
Because ours will be a relationship that allows both of us to become what we are capable of being, we will continue relating to each other with mutual concern, care and respect.